[Mindflux]

With the recent event of things being tabu or 'off topic' in the off-topic area I can't help but wonder if there's an unsaid disclaimer for this particular sub-forum. Usually such areas have quite a bit more flexibility than a sub forum based on a particular topic such as Exterior detailing products, or whatever it may be.

As you can see by the attached picture "Chat about anything and everything" which encompasses .. well... everything. Why does it seem some things are not under the umbrella of everything?

Don't get me wrong, I love DB. Some other forums have much more nihilistic moderation practices and I'm glad to call myself a member of DB and to chat with some of these wonderfully skilled folk on a regular basis.

[Nica]

Okay Mindflux, you obviously have something on your chest, get it over with. What is bothering you?

Now, this is a warning to all other Detailing Bliss members, if you choose to share your opinion here please make sure it's constructive and be careful what you post because I've had enough BS here lately!!! My patience is running thin, I'm not one to react and if I do I usually sleep on things before I act, but enough is enough.

This needs to be settled with and done, I really, really hate drama!!!!

So if you have to say something say it now and get it over with and move on!!!

What is the problem here, why so much drama all of a sudden???

[LanceM]

I'm not sure. Maybe its just a bad time for people. The drama is ridiculous. I don't even feel like sharing pics or reviews anymore.

[shiny]

Mindflux.... I don't really know what happened but thought your original post was just meant as a joke?


i dunno

[Cyclo]

Obviously something happened before I ever got here and quite frankly now it's scaring the $*** out of me.

And why would that be? Because I was wanting to make an announcement, but I figure I either keep it too my self or I move on to a place where I can make it without fear of getting banned closed or corrected.

S*** I've been working on this now for months and I come up with a product today and this all starts.

Well back to lurk mode.

[Nica]

Originally Posted by LanceM

I'm not sure. Maybe its just a bad time for people. The drama is ridiculous. I don't even feel like sharing pics or reviews anymore.

Exactly!!! So far drama can either bring the best of a forum or simply ruin it, I've done my best to keep the drama to a minimum here at Detailing Bliss. For the most part drama has come and gone but it seems that there are a few members that just love drama (now I'm saying this in general not directed to anyone in particular), if members want drama please go to other sites because I want no part of it!

Drama is like a wound, if you don't deal with it and get it over with it just keeps lingering like an infected wound. If you clean it up properly and take care of it from the get go the recovery is much faster and best of all life goes on. When drama lingers, it's extremely disruptive to an environment that I and many other members have work so hard to create here at Detailing Bliss.

If members are in deed proud to be a Detailing Bliss member then act like it and quit all the BS!!!

[Mindflux]

Originally Posted by Nica

Okay Mindflux, you obviously have something on your chest, get it over with. What is bothering you?

Nothing truly. I posted this more or less because I didn't get to respond to the thread below about closing my original Mixology thread.

This user eloquently voiced his opinion which many members shared. If you go re-read the thread I'm sure you'll find that 95% of the responders enjoyed the satire and understood the calamity of the original thread that snowballed into a bickering match between A.R and myself.

[Nica]

Originally Posted by Mindflux

Nothing truly. I posted this more or less because I didn't get to respond to the thread below about closing my original Mixology thread.

This user eloquently voiced his opinion which many members shared. If you go re-read the thread I'm sure you'll find that 95% of the responders enjoyed the satire and understood the calamity of the original thread that snowballed into a bickering match between A.R and myself.

If indeed nothing was bothering you we wouldn't be having this thread now would be.

I repeat, speak up now or move on and be done with, I'm growing tired of this rambling on and on speak up, express your frustration or what ever issues you have with me or any other member and be done with, but note that what ever you express there will be a reaction..I say this not for my self but the person you may or may not have an issue with.

[Mindflux]

Originally Posted by Nica

If indeed nothing was bothering you we wouldn't be having this thread now would be.

We wouldn't have this thread if you had let the off topic discussion in question remain open. It was in the right subforum, it wasn't inflammatory and he was stating his opinion on the matter. If you are trying to remain neutral and allow people to express their problems or grievances (which you have now since asked me to do) you have to remain objective which by appearances sake by instantaneously locking a thread that could potentially bring up some bad points about membership here shows there isn't much of it at the present time.

There. Whew.

[Nica]

Originally Posted by Mindflux

We wouldn't have this thread if you had let the off topic discussion in question remain open. It was in the right subforum, it wasn't inflammatory and he was stating his opinion on the matter. If you are trying to remain neutral and allow people to express their problems or grievances (which you have now since asked me to do) you have to remain objective which by appearances sake by instantaneously locking a thread that could potentially bring up some bad points about membership here shows there isn't much of it at the present time.

There. Whew.

So let me get this straight Mindflux, you would like for me to let everyone get bent out of shape with what will be shared/expressed and mean wile I'm receiving PM's about certain threads and what not. You need to remember Mindflux, I'm the owner of this forum and as such I'm responsible to what happens here at Detailing Bliss, like I said. I deal with things as I see best, if you have a problem with how go about dealing with things here at Detailing Bliss just sending me a PM and dealing it man to man, not trying to publicly make a big deal of nothing.

I've always encourage members to contact me if they have a problem with how I do things, in fact I welcome feed back. Detailing Bliss can only improve if constructive criticism is shared/expressed. So far I've seen no constructive criticism due to the way it has been expressed. Here is my way of thinking, again I express this is my mentality. If I have a problem with a member I go directly to that member and deal with it, I don't go around starting threads and getting people on my side to back me up or back me up on my train of thought. Again that's just me though.

So if you want Detailing Bliss to be a boxing match, I only have one question, how will this benefit Detailing Bliss and it's community? How is a pissing match constructive to the growth and making other members feel welcome here?